How to Prevent Bullying in School-Age Kids
Growing up means more than making friends – it’s also about learning kindness, respect and what to do when those things are missing. Bullying can happen anywhere: in classrooms, in the neighborhood or online. But with the right tools, we can help kids build empathy, confidence and resilience to prevent bullying before it starts.
Here are some ways to create a kinder, safer world for your child and their peers:
1. Talk Early and Often
Start the conversation before bullying happens. Ask your child what they think bullying means and how it might make someone feel. Keep the tone open and judgment-free so they feel comfortable sharing. Use real-world examples from books, shows or past playground moments to help them recognize when someone is being unkind – and what they could do to help.
2. Model Kindness and Respect
Kids learn a lot from what they see at home. Show them how to disagree respectfully, manage frustration and treat others – neighbors, teachers, store clerks – with care. When kids see adults practicing empathy, they’re more likely to do the same.
3. Teach Assertiveness, Not Aggression
Help your child practice standing up for themselves and others in calm, confident ways. Simple phrases like, “That’s not okay,” or “Please stop – I don’t like that,” can make a big difference. Role-play scenarios so they know what to say if they see someone being bullied – or if they experience it themselves.
4. Stay Involved and Observant
Changes in mood, appetite or social habits can sometimes signal that something’s wrong. Check in regularly, ask how school is going and listen without rushing to fix things. Staying present helps your child know they’re supported, and it makes it easier to spot issues early.
5. Encourage Inclusive Thinking
Teach kids to celebrate differences rather than fear them. Exposure to diverse books, media and experiences helps them see that everyone has unique strengths and perspectives. When kids understand and value diversity, bullying behavior tends to decrease.
6. Set Clear Rules for Online Behavior
As more kids spend time online, it’s important to talk about digital kindness. Remind them that what’s said online can hurt just as much as words spoken in person. Together, set boundaries for screen use, privacy and how to handle mean or hurtful messages.
Building a Culture of Kindness
Preventing bullying isn’t about one big talk – it’s about smaller, everyday actions. When kids learn empathy, assertiveness and respect from the people they trust most, they’re better equipped to stand up for themselves and others. With steady support and open communication, we can help every child feel safe, valued and included.
Brought to you by Indiana Afterschool Network.